Chapter 5:
Article: How to write a good profile
Fill in most of the sections. If it looks like you
couldn't be bothered to invest twenty minutes filling in your profile then many people
think there's not much point in emailing you as you aren't "Genuine"....just
someone who has registered a profile merely to browse/experiment round the site.
Ideally you should fill in all the sections - matching profile, psychometric
test and compatibility test. However the most important bit is your Main
Description.
A photo is really important. If you don't have a photo - you are
almost invisible. Even people who don't have a photo of themselves online
usually tick the "Just show me profiles with photos" checkbox! There is no
reason to be bashful - Internet Dating is very mainstream and literally millions
of people have photos online. Also the rise of networking sites like Facebook,
Bebo, etc. mean it is pretty much universally accepted that you ought to
have a picture on display.
P eople want to
get a real flavour of your personality ...so write something original
instead of just ticking the time-saving checkboxes! There is nothing more boring than going through profile after
profile that contain long lists of items. Use the sections like 'Job',
'Hobbies', etc as a means of expressing your personality. They are a blank
canvas - paint an interesting picure on them.
Main Description can be a bit daunting to do ...if you get stuck do the other
sections first then go back to do your Main Description using the most
interesting edited highlights of the other sections.
It is not so much what you say as the way you say it. People really aren't
necessarily that bothered about the intricate details of your job,
hobbies - but they are interested in an interesting overview that gets across
your character/personality in some small way.
Maybe talk briefly about the sort of person you'd like to meet but beware
having a long "Shopping list" of qualities that you expect your partner to have
- this makes you sound demanding/fussy You don't want to put off good
people by making them think "Who do you think you are that you can be so
choosey"
Keep the profile fairly light hearted - think of it
like flirting on paper. Being funny is a plus - but don't feel you
have to be funny.
Don't rush it - you may decide to have a glass of red wine and allow yourself
an hour. Use Microsoft Word and regard your profile as a continuous work in
progress. Updating your profile from time to time is a good idea.
There is no need to quote you age or other details that is on your profile
anyway. "I am a 34 year old woman who lives in London . I am 5' 5..." all
this stuff is on your profile - so don't write it in your main description as
well as it makes it look boring.
Don't complain on your profile. The profile should be positive. If you are
negative - then make sure you are funny with it.
Don't say stuff like "No timewasters" or "I expect people to reply to say
'Thanks but no thanks", "Only genuine replies please!" etc. Even if you have had
a bad experience in the past with internet dating - this will not tend to help
you in future - it just gives your profile "Negative Vibes" ..it will put off
people from contacting you.
There are many types of good profile - vive la difference!
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